The subtle power dynamics in a relationship.
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Have you ever noticed that sometimes you seem to be wearing the pants in your relationship and other times it is your partner? This is the sign your relationship is a happy, healthy one.
As the saying goes – relationships are a two-way street – not a highway and a bike path. In a healthy relationship, couples should have the ability to compromise (even if they are not always happy about it).
In the almost 13 years I have been with my husband, we have had our ups and downs, but we have also noticed that our power dynamics change. I am the person who organizes everything (holidays, doctors appointments, shopping trips etc). Due to this, I more often than not carry more power in the relationship as I make more decisions (although I do consult my husband on them). The pro to this is as I organize everything, I have more information on the subject so when someone asks a questions regarding this, I am the one who can answer it (making it more obvious that I wear the pants!)
There are times though that my husband feels the need to take charge. Whether it be small things like me following him at the grocery store (instead of him following me) or larger things like picking out a new TV – he sometimes feels the need to prove himself (which I must admit – I do kind of get annoyed – I’m so used to being in control!) I do definitely allow him a say on everything though.
Take a look at your own relationship – do you have this with your own partner? Does it work for you?
Let me know in the comments!
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